Failing at my social media break.

Failing at my social media break.

When I said that I was taking a social media break, I didn’t mean it like how normal people regularly take time off from social media to focus on the important things in their lives. I meant it in a way where I realized a while ago that social media engagement and mindless scrolling are specific behaviors that I use to avoid feeling anything, and so I decided to begin a break on a very specific day—a day after the election was over. 

Another reason that I decided I needed a social media break is because I have started to realize that I create a lot of content that people enjoy and find helpful and that it all belongs to someone else and can be taken from me at any time. I learned that lesson when I was randomly—and apparently permanently—suspended from Twitter, without any recourse. There is nothing that you can do to guarantee your access to any platform. You can follow the rules like I did, and you can still be arbitrarily banned.

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White supremacy was a Trojan horse at Facebook.

White supremacy was a Trojan horse at Facebook.

Imagine a Facebook where the major decision-makers, policy advisers, and public relations folks weren’t one hundred percent wealthy white people. Imagine a Facebook where half of these folks were black, Latinx, Muslim, and immigrants. Imagine that when racist, anti-immigrant, anti-Muslim propaganda began to appear on Facebook back in 2010, 2013, or 2015, that when CEO and Founder Mark Zuckerberg asked what Facebook should do about it, the team he asked wasn’t the all-white team he asked, but a team that has experience with racism, discrimination, hate crimes, political assassination, and genocide. But as we know, that’s not what happened. A new article in the New York Times shows us all of the bad decision-making that led to the consequences we all live with today.

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A suit will make them take you seriously.

A suit will make them take you seriously.

I bought my first suit during my second semester of law school. I needed it to wear to an oral argument I had to make before three judges at the Intermediate Court of Appeals for my Appellate Advocacy class. So I waited for my next paycheck and I went to Ann Taylor for the first time in my life. I was only going to be able to buy one suit, and since our Dean told us that for job interviews, women should buy a skirt-suit and go with classic colors like black and gray, I did just that. I found a beautiful black skirt-suit set. I loved it and I looked amazing in it. I felt powerful and confident. I bought some sheer black nylons and black heels with a pointed toe, as well as a pearl necklace and earrings set (fake, I think? I don’t know a lot about pearls, but I bought the set at Ross). My Dean said that pearls were “so classic, so traditional.” I spent around $250 for everything, which was a lot for a single mother putting herself through law school, but I felt like a million bucks in that outfit and I knew I’d use these classic pieces for many years to come.

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Yes, your Republican family member is a monster.

Yes, your Republican family member is a monster.

In a single day, I heard three white women declare that Republicans are not monsters.

“I’m not a monster,” a white woman in one of my Facebook mom groups typed in a comment on a post about Republicans. The women in the group are professionals. Most of us hate Trump. A growing number of us are persistently vocal about our disgust with Republicans for their complicity in harm to marginalized people. We see no real difference between enthusiastically supporting racist policies and expressing concern about these policies but ultimately pulling the trigger to vote for them.

Earlier that same day, another white woman I know defended her Republican family members on Facebook, saying that they’re not monsters.

Later, I listened to an interview on NPR where a young white woman talked about how—after meeting some Republicans at work—she learned that, unlike she had been raised to believe by her liberal family, Republicans aren’t monsters, and so she’s now open to voting for them. 

These women gaslight us to protect their monsters.

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I'm so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.

I'm so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.

October is my favorite month of the year. I am very Anne of Green Gables about October. It feels magical every year. I love everything about it, and especially when the weather is sunny and crisp, like a perfect autumn apple.

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